Love is simply Love!!!!

We all have experienced a breakup. Some have been worse then others. Love is not like the movies. Love is not fairytales and happy endings. Hang in there its not all negative. I say that love is not like the movies because it really isn't, we forget that love is a universal feeling. Its a feeling of closeness and a connection to another human being. Its a beautiful thing to love, Infact it is so beautiful that we love more then just people. We love food, animals, clothes, music and so on. OH admit how many times have you associated love with penne ala vodka or a pair of jimmy choos. My point is Love comes in many forms but is still Love. At some point we have attached the beauty of love with expectations, Limits, Desires, and self interest. Like all of my theories love is no different. we do not have control of such a powerful neutral response. Its simple, WE LOVE. its not suppose to be perfect or a man made love story. Love doesn't have titles or endings. It just simply loves. Have you ever had an ex that for some reason even after the breakup you still loved the person? ever asked why? well here is goes, Love doesn't know ending or disappointment because it never expects. It loves because that's its purpose. We have tried to control this power in us because imagine a world where we let love simply be love? Man what a world that would be. To love everyone as an individual and accept who they are without any pressure to be who we want them to be. I get amazed at the people who loose them self at the sight of love. Who forget who they are to please someone else. Would you call that love? I call that escape, the two can be very similar yet totally different. True love has no motive, no intentions but to be just what it is . Heres an example, think about the people in your life who have been there no matter what life has dealt you. The one who stood by your side when the world was guiding in you in a different path then the one accepted by society. Those people seem to be the ones who stand out right ? Well thats the purpose of love. Obviously we connect with people on a more intimate level that make our feelings different but do we love them differently? I would say no. Intimacy has its own set of emotions that are associated with love but are not love. I try not to laugh but i'm allowed because I have been one of these people, but i get a kick when people say " how could he do this to me after all i have done for him"?. Well heres the thing unless a gun was pointed at you, no one forced you to do what you wanted to do. If the outcome does not go your way its your problem not theirs. Since when did love owe you anything? since when did we come up with the idea that if you do something for someone they automatically must be cold hearted because they didn't give you what you wanted? Do not take the power of an individual away because they decided to follow a different path then yours. Have you ever wondered why after a break up we are so devastated yet somehow with time move on and love again? Its simple so prepare yourself, Devastation comes from an expectation not being fulfilled and met. Devastation does not come from love, actually it has nothing to do with love. So once we finally get over it we move on why ? because love has no ending or expectations.

Lets get interesting now. We live in very different times and man have they become complicated. with the opportunities out there humans cant help but want to explore the possibilities. Marriage is far from the old days when forever really meant forever. now i'm not saying we should not hope to find such a beautiful thing but take some things in consideration like the simplicty our grandparents got to live. The only thing exciting was coming home to the one thing that was always exciting and not always in a good way but hey something is better then nothing right ? now look at today and how much we have expanded and grown from that time period, look at how much more we are able to accomplish today. Should we fault a person for wanting to do what is in there nature to do. To explore a beautiful world that was given to us to do just that. Heres another question, have we ruined the power of love because we have not adjusted to new times? We have had this idea planted in us that love should be a certain way and yes at the time it was a great idea because it worked then. Today we cant expect that concept to work. Here is where people get confused, As much as love is beautiful it should not restrain a person to a certain expectation. It should not limit there life because they chose to share there life with yours. Relationships today should be more flexible to allow a person to be who they are. It should allow change and growth . Love has no ending so it keeps going and we are left behind. I am a hard working woman who loves her independence. Am i not lovable because i rather work towards my dreams then stay at home and deal with brats, I mean kids. Am I not lovable because i'm not what you pictured a wife to be ? Should i instead become who you want me to be because thats what LOVE is ? So sorry but unless you want a nagging wife all day I suggest you let me be me just as I am. 

We don't owe anyone anything and neither do they owe us. if it doesn't work out then hey , it was fun while it lasted. And if it does it means you didn't have to compromise who you were. There weren't any motives or intentions behind the relationship it simply was and let you simply be you. Obviously respect needs to be a great part in a relationship and i'm not saying we shouldn't change the bad things about us in order to have a healthy relationship, but you deserve to explore whatever paths you like as much as your partner in life, thats why they are a partner not a hostage. (cheating is not a path to explore just to clarify any misinterpretations) If relationships adapted to new times and based love on love we would not have the need to attach our own disappointments to another person. We love whether we agree or not. We love because its simple. Don't mix love with expectations. It only ruins the beauty of loving someone for who they are. If they don't stay after a 5 course meal and a night of some hanging off a chandelier honkey honkey then maybe they just weren't meant for you. Embrace who you are and be confident enough to allow someone to be who they are. If you base your relationship on the simplicity of love then maybe forever can still be forever !