Trying to understand the struggles of others, is a silly attempt to trying to understand life

We all, at some point in our lives have experienced some type of "bad" experience that has affected us in one way or another. Some experiences are worse then others, but it doesn't take away from the fact that it affects us all in different ways. Many people wonder why some of us go through rougher times then others and that question seems to always be asked when a "good" person experiences rougher times then others. The answer to such a mystery is really no mystery at all. Life does not pick and choose who will get the losing hand of the deck, it simply deals you your hand and whatever way you choose to play your hand is totally up to you. We dig and dig for explanations to questions that simply have none. Its a waste of time to consume your energy on WHY you got dealt a crappy hand instead of HOW your going to play the hand you were dealt.  sometimes you put on a poker face and make due of your hand and see how far it can get you and sometimes your wise enough to fold and sit this one out until next round, either way you make due. Life is no different, there is no changing what
happens in your life. You cant say " Hey World, this crappy situation does not work for me right now so you need to take it back and rethink what your going to give me next". As ideal as that would be unfortunately its not an option we have.

Think about the people who have suffered and struggled and continued to keep on going despite there obstacles in life. Now look at the people who choose to be affected by the same obstacle and just sulk in their misery. Why do some become affected and others don't ? Well, many things can play a role in that answer because everyone's foundation is different. That is a question to be answered Individually. To try and compare how one person handles a situation to another is a silly attempt to try and understand life. Unless you have walked in their shoes and felt their pain & struggles you could never understand why they do what they do. The only real question you should ask is why do YOU handle situations the way YOU do? Anything else is irrelevant since the only person you can truly understand is yourself.

The second part to this is when you overcome your obstacles but forget compassion. I think that one is just as hard as overcoming the obstacle itself . One thing is being brave enough to face whatever life throws your way but its another to believe that because you made it through a situation then everyone else should overcome theirs just as easy. That is simply unrealistic and unfair. Do not let strength mix with ego. The only accomplishment you will gain by this approach is disappointment and confusion. Be compassionate & humble enough to understand how difficult some situations can be for people whether, you understand why they are so affected or not. However be detached & confident enough to allow them their own ways of handling and understanding it, even if its not to your "standards or approval".

Like one of my favorite philosophers says, “It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path.” ― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist


Evelyn Martinez 
Life Coach 
www.coachtoloveandfreedom.com